a) If you’ve never been divorced or you have no compassion for divorced people keep your pie hole shut. Stop telling people that Jesus is their husband/wife now. Not only is he not going to talk to you, touch you, or tell you he loves you, it’s just downright creepy.
b) I guess if you’re into playing games and generally not interested in a life partner that’s okay. As far as I’m concerned there isn’t much point in dating if there is no possibility of marriage. That’s not to say that you want to marry out of desperation or loneliness, but if companionship is what you’re after sooner or later casually dating isn’t going to cut it anymore.
c) Now this one I’m actually okay with because if attitudes of the Christians on these so-called Christian answers and Christian relationship boards are any indication of Christian attitudes in general I wouldn’t want to date one myself. They make it seem as if dating a non-Christian is the worst possible thing you can do as unbelievers are the scum of the earth.
“If I just put a little dog poop in your peanut butter would you eat the sandwich? Not a lot, just a tiny drop! I’d just dip the end of a sewing needle in the pile! Is that really enough to contaminate your sandwich? Seriously – this guy is nothing but a little dog poop in your peanut butter sandwich. You decide.“
“I have to agree with everyone here. Having just been RELIEVED of an entanglement with a nonbeliever, I know God is in control of every part of our lives. Honestly, He just truly knows what’s best to us. Of course, this is all Chinese to people who don’t believe. Ultimately, you would be missing out on the coolest, most intimate and awesome challenge in a relationship, which Christ alone truly brings.“
“You are clearly deluding yourself. If you marry a non-christian you are on your own. You are in strict disobedience to the word of God. Whatever happens to you will be your fault. Don’t go blaming God when things begin to fall apart for you. People are good at doing that when they see their sin and evilness , presenting problems for themselves. They want to do an about face and blame everyone accept,themselves. Where the blame belongs. Christians have enough to deal with. Why sleep with the enemy? A non-christian is in partnership with the devil. Don’t you know that, by now?”
That’s right, nonbelievers are nothing more than dog poop in the peanut butter and jelly sandwich of life. If you are a Christian and you are contemplating sleeping with the enemy don’t go crying on God’s shoulder when disaster strikes. And I’m certain that as big a RELIEF as it was to dear Christian to be disentangled from nonbeliever it doesn’t even begin to describe the relief that nonbeliever must have felt if that is your attitude. Geez, get a life people, and stop, for the love of kittens, dispensing dating and marital advice.
These are only a few examples. Not only do Christians condemn other Christians and nonbelievers they jump to some mighty presumptuous conclusions. They assume that the reason a Christian might want to date a non-Christian is that they want to “do something sinful”, especially if they are divorced – as if they couldn’t find a Christian to “do something sinful” with. If you are assuming that Christians who are dating aren’t having sex I might suggest that you are the one who is delusional. Not only that, it’s pretty insulting to be told the reason you’re dating a particular person is just for the sex. I’m not saying there aren’t people out there who do, but speaking for myself, I’m not having sex with someone because they happen to be breathing and they have the right equipment.
Does it not occur to these Christians that it’s possible that nonbelievers can be ethical, moral, kind, smart, funny, committed, devoted, sincere individuals? They aren’t the enemy. And they certainly are not dog poop. My reasons for dating and committing to another person are my own. I know what I want from a partner and I know what I have to offer a partner. I’ve been through enough to know what expectations I have and how to articulate them. To say that only a Christian could fulfill them is asinine. I’ve been in a marriage with a “committed Christian” and lemme tell ya…that set the bar pretty low. I’ve learned to expect more and to be more.
As for whether or not to have sex, well, that’s the business of the partners, isn’t it?
This doesn’t even begin to cover the insult that is “Missionary Dating”.